basic spelling when it comes to trans terms, since these things tend to get misspelled fairly often:
- transgender, not ‘transgendered’. you wouldn’t say someone is gayed; it’s the same thing here
- trans, not trans*
- remember to put the space. trans woman, trans man, trans non-binary person
- not necessarily related to spelling, but don’t use ‘enby’ as a blanket term for all non-binary people. some of us don’t like it or are uncomfortable with it, and prefer ‘nb’ or ‘non-binary’. stick with non-binary until you know what a person is okay with
- add on if you see this list and have something else to say
i thought of more things:
- never use ‘it’ UNLESS the trans/non-binary person has specifically said it pronouns are fine. if the person wants you to use it pronouns only, and you refuse or use different pronouns, you are misgendering the person. yes, i know the history of the usage of ‘it’ against trans people. that doesn’t make it okay to misgender someone who has made the conscious decision to use ‘it’ for itself
- FtM and MtF can be harmful. use these carefully; make sure the person you’re talking about/to is okay with these terms. on that note, don’t talk about trans people being trans to others without the person’s express permission
- "used to be a boy/girl"/"became a boy/girl" = not okay
- "opposite gender" erases non-binary people. try "all genders" or "another gender" instead
Wait why are we not using trans* now?
this discussion i was part of a while ago might help you understand some of the reasons
So my feelings about this are ones of great disappointment. : /
I liked the asterisk, because as someone says in the link above, it makes nonbinary stuff more visible. But people using it only for trans women, and disregarding other people’s IDs with it, is definitely NOT how I wanted it to be used!