Anonymous asked: "what you define as sex is up to you, you get to decide how many people you’ve had sex with" I dunno about this one I feel like you can't have PIV intercourse with someone and then be like "that didn't count as sex." xD
I dunno. This gets into where on one hand, we want the word “sex” to describe a specific thing… but on the other, it comes with a ton of baggage of “it was sex therefore it was a super big deal full of meaning, and even if it was meaningless, that itself has a meaning.”
As long as the baggage stays, I think the right to decline the baggage stays.
I think about whether something I did was “sex” more than I like to admit.
Once, I told a partner of mine that I enjoyed the sex we’d had the night before… only to have him claim we hadn’t had sex. To him, giving me oral for an hour didn’t count. I was miffed.
Another issue: feederism scenes are firmly part of my definition of “sex”, even if PIV is never involved. But then I wonder if my partners feel the same way about the scenes we’ve done together. I worry that if they don’t see the things we do as “real” sex acts, they find them less meaningful.
Anonymous asked: when u r a feeder, i assume ur a male?ö.ö
Umm. Not quite. 100% female :D
Things that irk me: the stereotype that all feedist women are feedees and all feedist men are feeders. Or that you only have to be one of those two.
I’m feelin’ like sharing.
Mine is to be sat on by a really huge guy, wile he gorge himself, and once he’s really full, to fuck my while moaning pleasurably about how stuffed he is.
reblog and share yours!
Watching him gorging on something he REALLY loves. It has to be something that can take him to near euphoric levels of happiness. Hearing him moan and watching him loose focus on anything else but just getting it inside him - including focus on whether or not he’s full, thus ending up achingly stuffed and begging for rubs. <3 Food trace ftw