Q. in preparation for a first stuffing session, my gf and I have been trying to find tips to make sure we’re being as safe as possible, but any sort of tips are nearly impossible to find on the internet - particularly because of our situation (really don’t want to gain). your resources posts are the most helpful thing i’ve come across but we still can’t find anything really stuffing-specific. are we out of luck because this community is so small, or do you perhaps have some wisdom to offer?
A. I am a little amused that you’re worried about gaining weight before your “first stuffing session” has even happened. Anything can happen during a first scene—some people love it, some people get nauseated, some people discover they don’t like being stuffed (me), some people realize they’re too full to fuck afterwards and just lie on the bed sleepily (Deep End). Do the scene, compare notes afterwards, and then go from there!
As for what makes stuffing “as safe as possible” during a stuffing scene? Unfortunately, even as a sometimes practitioner/blogger, I don’t feel qualified to make that call in terms of what I say being the be-all, end-all guide. As you’ve found, there are no real guides to this, and I’m as frustrated about this state of affairs as you are.
I can definitely give you advice. It basically boils down to “listen to your body, and if you don’t like what’s happening, stop”, which I realize some people will also find unhelpful. Don’t let the fun-but-unrealistic erotica you’ve read inform your decisions— stuffing is intense and difficult (Deep End had trouble breathing in some positions), and just feeding your partner Oreos can be fun even if they don’t feel able to eat the whole package. Don’t stuff with things that are really hot, really cold, or drink too much water—fucked up things can happen.
About not wanting to gain… if I’ve learned anything from fat acceptance, it’s that there’s no one prescription for how one body will gain weight any more than how they’ll lose it. My entirely unscientific suggestion would be to look back at your own weight history and try to come up with guidelines that way—some people carry around an extra pound after stuffing while people who exercise a lot may lose it the next week. I wouldn’t really recommend intense stuffings being a regular activity anyway since it’s stressful for the body— if I had a regular feedee I’d be leery about doing it more than once a month, and just have him eat normally, if erotically, the rest of the time.