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molly-ren replied to your post: Why is everyone on fantasyfeeder so terrible? I actually thought it was just a majority of the community until I saw this whole burgeoning tumblr thing.

Poor community guidelines? No enforcement… or even knowledge, really… of what makes for a consensual and pleasant interaction?

Yep.

Honestly, I’m not sure what to do to make feederism communities more pleasant on a larger scale except “make your own community”— by which I mean, maybe start a smaller Tumblr blog or forum where there’s a definite policy that certain kinds of creepers won’t be tolerated. Set a good example and hope it spreads?

(Figured it was time I finally made this shit rebloggable.)

This is a list of resources for people looking to learn more about feederism, fat admiration, or fetish. It is a work in progress.

Feederist and Fat Admiration Dating Sites

• Feedism.net, the newest online site for feederists!
• The Feedist List, a Tumblr where people can post dating profiles.
  
• Fantasy Feeder
• Dimensions

FF and Dimensions are mainly on here for completeness’ sake. They’ve both gotten a lot of criticism recently for bad moderation policies and general uselessness.

Virtual Feederism Groups

Reality Feeder hosts a Feederism Chat on days ending in Y; watch their Tumblr for when the chat is active.

Meatspace Feederism Groups

• Room for More (DC Chapter) This site is seldom updated, so check out the Fantasy Feeder forums under “Events” for their next meeting date.
• Room for More Chicago

Real-Life Erotica (My most popular feederism stories.)

• Gluttony and Lust
• Why you shouldn’t stuff with slurpees

Fetish Politics (Things I’ve written about the uneasy relationship between fat admiration and fat acceptance)

• Why fat fetishists and fat activists never end up in bed together

Books

• Fetish Sex: A Complete Guide to Sexual Fetishes, by Violet Blue (ebook only)

Violet Blue’s book is, hands down, the best guide to navigating the feederism/fat admiration fetish I have ever seen. It has an entire section specifically dedicated to it, and covers everything from tips on how to explain your fetish to your partner to suggestions for hot scenes. If you can only afford to read one of my resources, get this one. 

• The Other Side of Desire: Four Journeys into the Far Realms of Lust and Longing, by Daniel Bergner (available in dead tree or ebook format)

This book doesn’t have a section devoted specifically to feederism, but it does show the various ways people adjust to having “extreme” fetishes as part of their lives. 

• Alison Tyler’s story “Feeder”, from Cleis Press’ erotic short story collection She’s On Top

This short tale doesn’t refer to any part of Internet feederist culture except the title. Instead, it focuses on the sensuality of cooking, eating, and sex as shared by a suburban couple.

Feederist and Fat Admiration Blogs

• Big Men, Little Drawings (pencil drawings of fat men)
  
• Feedee World (a blog written by several women into feederism and fat admiration. They recently started a Tumblr.)
  
• Git Bigger and his Tumblr (gay male gainer with lots of info on what it’s really like to gain weight on purpose)
• Men In Full (a blog written by a woman in celebration of fat men)
• Chub Winchesters is a Livejournal group dedicated to Supernatural fan fiction with a feederism or FA bent. Here is their fic master list.
• Citrus Magica/The Orange Mage is an outspoken feeder with a gainer girlfriend.
• Macpurc is a gainer with a big belly who posts vanity pictures and videos of himself. I approve. 
• Feedist Confessions is a Postsecret-style confession blog. 
• Squidbiscuit draws stuffed versions of Superheroes, like Wolverine, as well as original characters. She’s also into vomiting.
• Ree draws a chubby demon named Risto who she then very kindly puts in all kinds of shirtless situations for her fans.

johnisdollywood:

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notoriousfuck:

molly-ren:

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You know why cis male feeders feel entitled to appropriate “fat admirer”? Because wealthy and privileged cis male feeders spent decades financing that appropriation because they felt it would be a useful asset.

Who are all these wealthy male feeders? Someone explain the joke…

are we getting royalties or something?

did i miss the meeting where we were doling out cheques?

are there stock options available?

Fun fact. I didn’t personally have a hand in the foundation of male privilege or white privilege. I also don’t have the wealth the maintain its perpetuation today. But I still benefit from it. Privilege actually is kind of like vested stock options. Just it all operates invisibly so the people profiting from it, both at the highest and lowest levels, like to pretend its not happening/didn’t happen.

Are you seriously fucking comparing feedism to WHITE PRIVILEGE

Is that seriously a goddamn thing you’re doing right now

Yeah, that’s the main problem I’m having here. Only without the bit where I set my computer on fire.

(via johnverbingalonewithnouns)