Stephen Elliott, from today’s Daily Rumpus email.
This is another example of why talking about certain kinds of desires is so complicated. What if your kink is for a kind of person you don’t understand anything about? I don’t know why I have my specific kink, but Elliott’s glossing over the real problem of wanting someone for racist/sexist/abelist/etc. reasons by just saying, “It’s all hard and no one knows why we like anything.”