This is really important to me. I just got out of an abusive relationship, and I hope that no one ever has to feel like I did.
I don’t do sex, and I don’t do abuse. But this seems important, spread this yea?
I have really complicated feelings about this kind of thing. Because it’s a good cursory guide, but…
BDSM and abuse can co-exist. It’s not a “one or the other” sort of question. Someone can (this is not theoretical, I’ve seen it) respect limits in scenes but fly into unpredictable rages outside them. Or they can bully people into “consenting” to play with them. Or they can hide their abuse in BDSM trappings and language and say “BDSM is not abuse” because hey, there was black leather involved.
The graphic seems to invite that kind of inverse logic: that something is BDSM therefore it is caring and consensual, rather than something is caring and consensual therefore it is good BDSM.
Certainly BDSM isn’t inherently abusive, but it can get tangled up with abuse in ways that are hard to plot on a two-column chart.
Follow-Up of the Day: Abused Bus Monitor Responds: Less than 24 hours after the horrific verbal abuse of Karen Huff Klein by a group of teens went viral, an online fundraiser to send the 68-year-old bus monitor on “the vacation of a lifetime” has raised $170,000 (and climbing).
What was Klein thinking as the juvenile delinquents berated her Monday?
Something about me being so fat and ugly your kids probably should commit suicide. I don’t think they knew my son had… I wanted to punch them is what I wanted to do. So that’s why I laid back, tried to ignore it. Because I really wanted to hurt them, you know? You can’t do that!
Klein said she doesn’t want the students to face criminal charges, but that she would like to see them “grounded all summer, or maybe all year.” She also would love an apology.
Meanwhile, the Greece Central School District has launched an investigation: “The first we learned of the incident was by email Wednesday morning,” said Deborah Hoeft, the district’s assistant superintendent. Two more videos of Klein being harassed have been found, and students are being questioned.
“This behavior is inexcusable and a clear violation of our code of conduct,” Hoeft said.
A news conference is planned for later today.