Like Vernacchio’s students, I have difficulty rationalizing facts (“70 percent of women do not orgasm through vaginal penetration alone”) with logistics (One student tells Abraham that “when she and her boyfriend ‘do anything, we just end up having sex’”). Like them, I struggle with communicating with men who say they want to make me feel good, but feel “very insecure” if they don’t implicitly understand how to do that. Like them, I have struggled to align my feminism with what I actually want in bed. One girl told Abraham that “she doesn’t enjoy cunnilingus, but taking the personal is political to heart, she asked her boyfriend to do it anyway: if she was expected to service him orally, he should have to return the favor.” I could have provided Abraham that sound bite, too.
If we miss out on the basics at a young age, when do we evolve into full sexual adults, people who know what we want and how to get it? Proponents of “disaster prevention” sex ed seem to think that if we teach kids about sex at a young age, they’ll mature too quickly. I was educated on that assumption, and I’m still waiting to really grow up.
(Source: si-vis-pacem--para-bellum, via continuants)
Chat of the Week: How Americans Have Sex
I don’t know what I wrote anymore, but my UK friend Cee found it pretty offensive.
Cee: Theres a diffrence between being sexy and tasteless, you know
Me: I never quite figured that line out, I suppose. Anyway, feederism is supposed to be messy. Sex is messy. Or maybe I am just a tasteless American chubby chick.
Cee: Yeah, you’d fuck a bald eagle burger on top of the stars and stripes.
Me: Wow.
Cee: With a baseball shoved in your asshole—
Me: um…
Cee: —underneath your gun rack whilst your sister watches. American dream. :)
