So get off the rack already—that’s where the boyfriend belongs—and negotiate an explicit “power exchange agreement” where his diet and weight are concerned. Explain to him that having a dominant feeder girlfriend doesn’t give him license to eat whatever he wants, whenever he wants, and put on however much weight he wants. You’re the dominant, FAT, you’re in charge, so you get to determine what he eats, when he eats, how much he eats, and ultimately how much weight he gains.
Luckily for him, FAT, you’re a conscientious, ethical dominant feeder. You’re not one of those evil feeders who wants to do lasting harm to some poor gainer; you don’t want to feed your boyfriend into a weight-related disability and/or an early grave. You’re interested in feeder play, not murder-by-cream-cheese-frosting.
So order the boyfriend to eat junk food, sit on his ass, and gain weight for a few months, FAT, and then order him to eat healthier food, get off his ass, and lose the weight. Don’t let his weight go more than 30 pounds over his ideal weight and you won’t be doing him any real or lasting harm.
—~ Dan Savage talks about how to be an ethical feeder in this week’s issue of The Stranger!