Feederism 101: References & Useful Links
These are the websites and videos I will hopefully mention during my talk on Feederism for today’s Kink For All. As of this writing, no one is sure if we will have internet or a projector, so this guide is created for people who want to learn more after my presentation (or can look at the ‘net via their cellphones.) WE NOW HAVE INTERNET, so viewers can use this to follow along as I talk. It’s not an inclusive guide of everything I might bring up, nor is it a full summary of my current views on Feederism, so check this space for later updates!
1.) The Midwest Teen Sex Show’s Fetish Episode:
Basic stuff for many of you, but the first couple minutes has one of the more memorable examples of the difference between “fetish” and “kink”.
2.) Unlike many people, I also had no idea what my fetish was called until I was 21 and I went to an exhibit at the Museum of Sex called “Kink”. This was the first time I saw the word “feederism” or realized that there was such a thing as (ametur, homemmade) feederism porn.
3. Knowing what it was called helped me to make more productive Google searches. However, this did not necessarily translate into more fetish dates. The only academic paper I’ve so far found on the subject of feederism sums it up in this way:
“Given that people interested in feederism do not hold annual conventions, subscribe to a certain type of magazine, nor are they formally members of any one particular organization, finding participants could have been extremely challenging. Not only are participants in this community not socially organized for real life meetings and conventions, they are also few and far between. They span the globe but are few in numbers.”
Thus, almost all of the feederism “scene” is online, carried out through shared stories and pictures or webcam dates. Some of the main feederism dating websites are:
Myspace (look through my friends to see the profiles of male feedees.)
4. Since we aren’t concentrated in a specific place, there are no fetish clubs (such as Crucible in Washington, DC) specifically for us. Because of our insulated nature, we don’t tend to seek out groups such as Dark Odyssey, which are inclusive of all different types of sexuality. Nor do we really talk about limits, such as “safe, sane, and consensual”—which is somewhat of the nature of the fetish. This is tolerable as long as we’re limited to pictures and stories, but there are also many “stuffers” and “gainers” who practice overeating on their own, and I worry about them. For example:
Water is cheap and filling, but it might kill you.
However, the Mythbusters have proven that pop rocks might not actually kill you:
Now, this doesn’t mean other feeders don’t talk to one another and give each other tips. The gang of male stuffers on Myspace form a kind of fraternity that helps to initiate new feedees in the art of stuffing without hurting themselves, but one of the ways my fetish could be improved is to have clearly articulated guidelines or, somehow, classes. Competitive eating, an activity that looks a lot like stuffing except that it’s done in public and sometimes for money, has started to look like how I’d want my fetish to appear in the future.
hot damn“I’m so hungry, all the time.”
“It’s a ringworm.”
Other Places To Kiss
10. The cheek.
9. The ass.
8. The palm.
7. Collarbones & throat.
6. Between the shoulder blades.
5. The inside of the wrist.
4. Just behind the ear.
3. The backs of the knees.
2. The skin of the inner thigh—especially the place where the leg joins the body.
1. On the tummy. The whole area between my bellybutton and the top of my pubic hair is very sensitive, but I am afraid to tell people to pay attention to that place.
Kink For All is coming to Washington, DC this weekend!
I’ll be giving a talk called Feederism 101: what it is, how it could be better, and where you can find porn. Plus, if you’re able to attend, you’ll get to see me in the flesh!
Never heard of Kink for All? It’s a new series of “unconferences” dedicated to spreading sex-positive information to the masses. It is totally free! Anyone can attend as long as they help out in some way, whether they give a talk, bring coffee, or help set up chairs beforehand. The event is intended for anyone who is interested in non-mainstream sexuality, and thus embodies the broadest definition of the term “kink.” The most important elements are that attendees be curious, respectful, and have open minds. As such, it is not a “play” event. But, you can expect an amazing diversity of ideas and information related to sexuality which will hopefully give you new directions to explore.
Wanna come? The main place for information is the wiki; the RSVP list there is considered the definitive one and please sign up for the mailing list.
If you’re coming (or if this event just sounds awesome) please blog, reblog, or retweet this post. The event’s happening on Saturday, Nov. 21st (i.e. THIS WEEKEND), so the most important thing for us now is to get the word out!
*kisses*
Molly Ren
Note: This activity is not sponsored by, associated with, or endorsed by Montgomery County Public Schools or Montgomery County Government. Also, as part of our agreement to use the facilities, we can not allow people to attend who have been convicted of or pleaded (1) guilty, (2) “no contest” or (3) nolo contendere to a misdemeanor involving sexual misconduct or a felony (whether or not resulting in a conviction).
(via derekisme)
Another kind of dinner party.
